愛您的blog像您愛您的妻子，并且您不可以最終獲得blog離婚

張貼在2007年7月26日在8:59 pm

為多數人，我至少感覺， blog是一个那些涼快「在」要做的事您能張貼圖片的你自己醉酒或談論的地方多少您恨學校或為什麼您更比貓喜歡狗。即然優良是為偶然blogger，但，如果您是入blogging為歷時長久為任何原因，掙金錢或成為當局，然後您必須不同地對待您的blog ： 您必須對待您blog，如您會對待您愛的人.

它聽起來古怪，但，當我與我的妻子時談話她有時昨晚說「以我所见像您愛您的blog更多比您愛我!」現在，當然，那不是真實的，但是它得到了考慮怎樣的我I 實際上 感覺關於我的blog，并且，如果那做在我最後的成功上的任何區別或我的困境作為blogger。 Blogging是不僅工作，它是您形成與你自己的關係需要自我訓練、關心、時間、能量、焦點、獨特、樂趣、意志、妥協、耐心、饒恕和真正的愛。

對聽起來我的與我的妻子的關係的我! 我們一直談論這些事確信，我們在彼此保持集中，并且兩人對方式是愉快和滿意我們的生活和關係朝向。幾個星期牢騷由任一個團體導致緊張、戰鬥、重音和整體不幸。如果那個趨向為太長期繼續，人們導致飄離和得到離婚! 我一定不要那發生與我的blog，并且所以我相似地對待它，當我對待我的妻子(至少暫時)。這我在您的關係過來與認為的有些規則：

規則1 ：您是否真正地愛您的妻子？ - Hmmm，如果您真正地不愛您的妻子或GF，然後您大概不去持續非常長期! 當然，居於犯錯誤并且與錯誤人民結婚，因此它也許是設法的差錯blogging，但那是單程學會。或您能確信，您blog關於您真實地享受并且能做在長的時期的事。不要嘗試對blog關於什麼是「熱的」或什麼人認為將掙多數金錢，您就是不會能到為時。有真正的激情關於題目，不僅驅動為金錢。

規則2 ： Don’t be sweet before marriage and then an ass afterwards! - What I’m trying to say here is that you should be consistent or at least try to be as consistent as possible! When people mention relationships that have gone sour, there is always something in there about “Well, he/she just changed and I never knew the real XXX until…” Same thing for blogging! You don’t want to be pumping out 10 posts a day, burn yourself out, and then post nothing for 1 month while you re-coop. Everyone has a certain writing ability inherently, so try to figure that out and stick to it. I started in March and was posting about 7 to 8 posts a day because I was excited, but could not keep it up and have now settled to around 2 posts a day.

Rule 3: If you spend 24 hours a day with your wife, you’ll go mad - I don’t think it’s possible for anyone to spend ALL the time together, I don’t care how much they love each other; there needs to be time to be alone or time with friends (together with your wife is fine). For blogging purposes, this means don’t spend all your time on YOUR blog; visit other blogs, post comments, email blog authors, connect to people through FaceBook, MyBlogLog, etc. If you focus constantly on your blog, you might have great content, but you won’t get readers (debatable, but there definitely is more to blogging than just content)

Rule 4: Hopefully, your wife fell in love with you because you were different than everyone else - I’ve learned that the reason my wife and I enjoy spending time with each other is because we find each other interesting. We find that the way we express ourselves makes the other laugh or have fun in ways that we would not otherwise have with someone else. If you’re writing a blog, don’t just regurgitate what others have written. Even if you are writing about something someone else has already written about, you can make your content unique by adding your own opinion or view to it. Otherwise, people will find that your blog is not that special and won’t mention it, link back to it, etc.

Rule 5: Snapping at your wife will usually lead to unpleasantness - Being patient is probably one of the best things that I like about myself and boy is it needed in a relationship! If you’re one to snap quickly or want to rush things, you’ll be in trouble when it comes to blogging. Rising in the ranks of good blogs takes a lot of time and effort. You need to optimize your blog, wait weeks or months for Google to index it, wait for it to get out of the “sandbox”, wait for people to start reading your blog, etc, etc. There is a lot of waiting and watching involved and results won’t come in a snap!

Rule 6: A real love relationship is really hard work - Once you get into a serious relationship with someone, it takes work to keep things fun and fresh, it just doesn’t just happen by itself. Maybe it does with some people, but in my experience, even if you really love someone, you still have to do special things for that person, sit and talk, compromise on certain issues, etc. When you blog, someone might steal your content or you might install a plugin that deletes your entire blog! You have to be ready to deal with it and put in the effort to make sure things go smoothly. In love, it’s not just going to your wife and saying I love you, just like in blogging it’s not just about writing posts.

Rule 7: A strong relationship means that you learn from each other - If you think you know the best way to handle every situation, remember it’s just YOUR opinion and you might be able to learn something from your wife. I know that in the 4 months that I’ve been blogging, I really know close to zero of what it takes to become a true professional blogger, so I make it a point to try to read their blogs as much as possible and to ask them a few questions here and there through email. A lot of top bloggers actually respond and are very willing to help.

These are just a few things that popped into my head, but I hope it helps someone figure out what is necessary to become a great blogger. I’m going to try and follow these rules myself and hopefully I can save my blog marriage.

Have any more ideas similar to this that I missed, post a comment!